When you feel that you have failed in some way or haven’t met your goals how does it make you react? Are you the type to hang back and accept failure, or worse, to wallow in your demise? Many people would react that way at least for a while until they are able to recover their self-confidence.
Then there is another ‘Warrior’ or ‘Ninja’ type that would get mad and fight harder to overcome whatever it is. Maybe with oaths being uttered that they will overcome whatever it is with a vengeance. In either case it is probably a good idea to kick back for minute and ask yourself what happened and why things turned out the way they did. Plenty of the time it is nothing you did or had control over – it Is ‘just the way it is’.
So then we must go on to accept that (for a minute) in order to transcend the various emotions and/or mop up all the spilled milk. A couple points to keep in mind in case you ever find yourself in a situation like this. Feeling bad, like a loser, or blaming yourself (even if you did it) does absolutely nothing to help. It doesn’t change anything and it definitely doesn’t help you get your life spinning back in a positive direction. In fact it has the opposite effect of sending you further back down.
Sans the self-judgment, self-pity, etc., it probably is pretty important to analyze exactly what happened, where when and why. This is only so that you may formulate a better plan next time that has all the good points you had going and terminates the mistakes if possible. Believe it or not this can work for everything from your home business, your day job, your family relationships, and even to your health.
There is a lot of be said about ‘turning over a new leaf’ no matter what the frame of reference. There will more than likely always be a tomorrow and that represents an opportunity to start over and do better. You might consider it a silly analogy but visualize the way you skin your knees or even break your bones and how they do heal if you take the right actions to correct or heal the situation.
So bottom line is ‘never say die’ and never give up. Never. Use your common sense or logic to get your head straight and then do something that involves making a better decision. You would be surprised how the result is better too. By the same token if you keep making the same mistake, you will keep having the wrong result. You just need to determine which is which and it is ok to envision the angel on the shoulder and the other guy opposite. Stick with the angel!